What is Sexuality to an individual? It’s the things that make you feel good, of course. Our society cataloged sexuality into two, and now, three groups. “Normal”, “Gay”, and “Other” (used to be “normal” and “freaks”)
How narrow minded is that? How much of the sexual spectrum is expressed in these narrow ways? I think sexuality, like many other things, exists on a spectrum. I was confronted by a slider on a recent website… M———-F
Where would you place yourself on this scale? I’ve struggled with identity problems, and seemingly reversed situations from time to time. The problem as I see it is that we SAY we want something. What we haven’t bothered to figure out is whether that something is enjoyable to us or not. Then we compound it by not asking for what we really want. Say, for instance, that you want something that’s out of the “Normal”? (Normal=7 th Heaven through Facts of Life)
How do you go about asking your “normal” date to do something else? I guess the answer is, you shouldn’t be going out with her/him in the first place. Now, here’s the crux of it…
How do you find someone? Remember, most people SAY they’re 7 th heaven, but MIGHT want something more like Elvira or Sex in the City. You probably won’t find out until you’re both naked, and that’s a vulnerable time to expose a secret desire. I’ve almost figured out where I stand on the scale. I love the female form; it’s what excites me. Personality means more to me after that. It sounds odd, but I find beauty in almost any woman. I like big butts, I like little breasts, and vice versa. Besides, society’s idea of beauty has been driven into me so convincingly, that I could never imagine anything else being beautiful. But which society? Europe has gone through many phases in their history were thin women were considered sick. Fat was Phat, baby. Why should I only see beauty the way society tells me to? That’s a transitory measure. That will lead me to ask the wrong person the right question.
As to what that question is, I suppose I’ll have to wait until I’m naked (eeek)